INTIMACY with Minissha Lamba

When the techniques become second nature, Read More">one’s romantic and sensual world starts to unfold. Why is it hard to discuss carnal cravings with our partners or friends? Why not talk about your intimate escapades? It’s because of repressions – the nagging sense that being sensual is a bit secretive and should be kept ‘sectioned off’Read More

When the techniques become second nature, one's romantic and sensual world starts to unfold. Why is it hard to discuss carnal cravings with our partners or friends? Why not talk about your intimate escapades? It's because of repressions - the nagging sense that being sensual is a bit secretive and should be kept 'sectioned off' from the rest of who we are. But tell you what; there's nothing sexier than confidence, especially when it spills out between the sheets! Sensual loving begins with indulging and lavishing attention on your body. Book yourself a quiet night in; turn off your mobile, dim the lights and let yourself relax. Try having a long, hot bath with scented candles and sensual oils, whilst playing relaxing and uplifting music. Lie back, close your eyes and concentrate on taking deep breaths because we bring to you her handbag, her body, her adulterous affairs, her school fantasies, her ambivalence about sex, her sensual pleasures, her self indulgent love, her stilettos, her bath essentials, her foot massages and much more. It's all here; in this slideshow of secrets revealed. This Monsoon, get ready for some wet and wild talk as Bollywood Hungama's London correspondent and UK's Harrow Observer columnist bring you the first of the four part exclusive series titled 'INTIMACY' featuring Minissha Lamba. Go ahead, read it. You might get your confidence back!

Monsoon as wet and wild:
In childhood, monsoon is associated with fun, getting wet in the rain and playing in it. As you grow older, the concept of monsoon becomes more romantic. It becomes wistful, having tea with your loved one and cosying and cuddling up. Right now, I am in a very sensuous phase of monsoon. These are some of the stages of monsoon as per my observations.

Romancing with books:
I was someone who in my teenage years read a lot of Mills and Boons and I'd wish, 'Oh my God! If this perfect love only happens to me like every girl reading Mills and Boons hopes for.' That was my idea of love that was my idea of romance with a perfect man. So you set out in your mind the Mills and Boon man who takes over, who knows what you need before you need it, who is your caretaker. So you grow up with those ideals and come out in the real world only to find out that there is no such man. That was my first brush with romanticism.

Read More">Sex: I was a fifteen year old when the first time I landed up in a conversation with my mother about ‘Sex’. My mother explained the whole ‘Birds and the Bees’ to me. I was shocked and I never thought it was possible. There was a time when one used to be shy and reservedRead More

Sex:
I was a fifteen year old when the first time I landed up in a conversation with my mother about 'Sex'. My mother explained the whole 'Birds and the Bees' to me. I was shocked and I never thought it was possible. There was a time when one used to be shy and reserved about talking on such a topic but now 'sex' has become very clinical. It's a fact of life.

Sex in films:
India still needs to do a lot of running around when it comes to sex in films. I mean, it will take a good couple of years to break the shackles of sex. For the moment, we've got Rakesh Roshan's Kites coming out. I think it's going to be the most romantic and sensual films we Indians would've seen till now in a very long time. From the West, I liked Dirty Dancing. Not because of the name but because of it's sensual nature in their dance moves. City Of Angels too is one of my favourites. I must say this that the physical aspect of love has to be treated beautifully and you can see that happening in our Hindi cinema now and Kites is going to take it to the next level.

Private moments:
I would love a photographer to click very candid pictures of catching people in their private moments. It can't get more romantic and erotic beyond that, because that's when your guard is down. You're just the way you want to be in that moment. You're least bothered about who's watching and who's around you.

Passionate engagements:
I have no problems when it comes to talking about sex because I am very 'open' on the subject. However, sex may be an open book for me, but my relationship may not be. It's too private and doesn't belong to the world. It's mine.

Arousing Art: Michaelangelo’s sculpture, David, is very powerful. It is very sensual more than sexual. Whereas some of Peter Paul Ruben’s paintings are very sexual in nature. Mesmerising Massage: When you give a massage, Read More">you are creating an intense physical and emotional connection with the recipient. You share a series of touches that result inRead More

Arousing Art:
Michaelangelo's sculpture, David, is very powerful. It is very sensual more than sexual. Whereas some of Peter Paul Ruben's paintings are very sexual in nature.

Mesmerising Massage:
When you give a massage, you are creating an intense physical and emotional connection with the recipient. You share a series of touches that result in positive emotions for both of you. This creates a comfortable, two-way bond that can translate into a stronger, healthier relationship. Sharing a sensual massage with your romantic partner is a great way to strengthen your romantic relationship. Massage allows you and your lover to connect in a very deep way on both the physical and emotional level. The process of learning to share sensual touch can teach you both a lot about trust, communication, and pleasure, three of the major building blocks that make up any solid, lasting romantic partnership.

Fall for Fragrances:
When the company is selling a perfume, they are selling sensuality with it. You wear a perfume to smell fabulous, don't you? You want to smell fab to appear desirable to people who come in close contact with you. You can simply do good with any sports deodorant. I personally smell good in my Coco Chanel Mademoiselle and my all time favourite Calvin Klein Obsession.

Under the water:
I felt that my Kidnap songs, 'Mausam Yeh Awesome Bada' and 'Soniya' would emulate a lot of music videos which female pop-stars have already made in the UK or America like Britney Spears, Beyonce, Jessica Simpson, Pussycat Dolls, etc. Though I would rate 'Soniya' as a pop number but the 'Mausam' number can be termed as sensual and cinematically cliché. I love being a part of such cliché where you are under the waterfall wearing your white kurta and you're just going with the flow. Water here becomes very sexy.

Fruit fantasy:
The cliché fruit of sensuality and romance are the grapes. Any fruit can be sensual. Though I am not a great fan of strawberries when it comes to eating. But I don't mind doing a seductive shoot posing with a strawberry and cream on top, and believe me, there is nothing overrated about that.

School seductions: My ideal romance during my teenage years was Tom Cruise. I was crazy about him. Every time I used to look at his posters, Read More">I would feel so inadequate because someone like Tom Cruise would’ve been so far removed from the reality of my world and existence. But then you grow up andRead More

School seductions:
My ideal romance during my teenage years was Tom Cruise. I was crazy about him. Every time I used to look at his posters, I would feel so inadequate because someone like Tom Cruise would've been so far removed from the reality of my world and existence. But then you grow up and you discover that it is possible that your ideal man is the guy next door.

The ideal man:
Today, I want a man who is completely real, who is not put on but is a self-made man. He should have worked for everything that he is today. He didn't get it easy in life from Papa. I do not have anything against other men but if both of them were kept equal, I'd be siding the self-made one.

Romanticism and Sensuality:
There is a very fine line here. I think sensuality goes very well with romanticism. Therefore it's the more beautiful part of being sexual. It's the more emotional part of the idea of sexual. When women feel stressed, tired or run-down, they often lose the desire of being sensual. Take time to give your body a treat; indulge yourself and awaken your five senses of smell, sound, sight, touch and taste.

Chocolates - romantic, sensual and seductive
If anyone is willing to share his chocolates voluntarily with someone else, it means he really cares for that person. That's the bottom line. When someone gives up their chocolates for you, you know that they care. Chocolates will give you a major head start on any serious seduction and is one reason why chocolate is the absolute bestseller of all time for romantic holidays of all types. I would love to do a photo shoot with melted chocolate all over my body. You see the sensuality in the picture the moment you see it but when it comes to taking it off your body, the last thing I'll do is to take a shower in the studio where the shoot is going on.

Fetish about food:
Yes, you heard that right. You may wonder what food has to do with improving relationships. The study of food and how it affects your mood has fascinated and enthralled since time began. Different foods can affect us by calming us like warm milk or exciting us like sugar. With this in mind, it just makes sense that what you eat can have a direct impact on your romantic relationships.