Soha Ali Khan on spending her life with Kunal Khemu

By Subhash K. Jha -

January 30, 2015 - 10:21 AM IST

Now that the wedding is over, Soha Ali Khan is looking at a week of absolutely no work. "Both of us just want to put up our feet and relax," says Soha.

Soha seems surprised by her own decision to marry. "I always felt the only reason to get married is to have children. We've been very lucky to have very supportive parents. My mother is a very liberal. So there was no peer pressure to marry." Soha is confident about marriage. "I've always felt when you are committed in a relationship, you've to work through the difficult times. I've seen my parents in a successful solid marriage for 44 years."

Soha Ali Khan on spending her life with Kunal Khemu

Not that Soha has starry-eyed notions about marriage. "There is no perfect relationship. You have to work around the dissatisfaction. I am sure even my parents had their problems. They were completely different personalities. But they must have worked on their marriage. And they made it work."

She gives full credit to her parents for living in a perfect marriage. "I never felt any insecurity regarding my parents' marriage. I think they handled their issues and the public face of their marriage was so dignified. I've seen the dignity that my parents brought into their marriage. If I am a secure person today it's because of marriage that my parents shared. I'd certainly want my child to feel the same sense of security"

Soha Ali Khan knows she has to work hard on her marriage. "To keep a relationship going in today's day and age is very difficult. I'd like to think if my relationship has worked for five years it's permanent. We are all so self-centered. So am I. To give that much to a relationship is very difficult."

She has her own theory on marriages require more commitment from couples now. "One reason why marriages break faster now is because people live longer. Earlier people died at 60. Now they live to be a 100, so all that more time to spend in a marriage. How many years can you live happily in one relationship? You need to have a sense of commitment maturity and infinite patience to make a marriage last."

Soha is completely committed in this relationship. "My happiness always came first. But now to make Kunal happy makes me happier."

Nonetheless there are the doubts. "I don't know how much I can sacrifice for anyone else. I always said we should not take the relationship for granted. We need to continue to communicate our feelings about one another, no matter what its repercussions. Only an honest approach can keep a relationship going."

She gives her husband a lot of credit for making her feel secure in their relationship. "Kunal has a lot of integrity, fervor and ambitions. What I love the most about him is his consistency. In five years he has never wavered in his thoughts and beliefs."

No immediate plans of having children though.