<span class=normal>So do it. Dont let your fears become boxes that enclose you. Open them out, feel them and turn them into the greatest courage you are capable of. I promise you, nothing will go wrong. But if you live by your fears, everything that can possibly go wrong will go wrong and you wont even have done the Funky Chicken. <br><br><br><p class=clear>&nbsp;</p>While were on what everyone tells you to be, let me also say that all the planning in the world, wont take you where you want to get to. Its fine not to know what you want to be twenty years from now. Most of those who had it all figured out became bankers anyway. Oh this will appear on YouTube right?? There goes my next big loan for the film from my friendly neighbourhood bank. <br><br><br><p class=clear>&nbsp;</p>I did a movie once called Kabhi Haan Kabhi Naa, in which I was the victim of a lovers confusions and my next lesson is precisely that. Its ok to be confused. Confusion is the route to all the clarity in the world. Dont worry about it too much and dont ever take yourself seriously enough to be so clear about your own ideas that you stop respecting other people. Our values are our values, they dont make us any better than anyone else, at best they make us different. Always try to see the other persons truth because like every movie has a story, every human being has one too and you have no right to imagine that yours is better than anyone elses. You can leave that silliness to my esteemed colleagues and me!! <br><br><br><p class=clear>&nbsp;</p>And if you thought the last two stories I told you were crazy, heres another one in the reckoning for the Oscar for weirdest screenplay: Guddu. Guddu was my name in a movie about loving and giving in which basically, I have an accident (yes another one) but this time instead of almost wiping out my future mother in law, I wipe out my girlfriends eyes. Many convoluted sub-plots including a life threatening brain tumour, a legal battle for the right to donate organs and a fast unto death, my lawyer father, my religious mother and I are battling over which one of us will donate our eyes to my blind girlfriend. In the end, I recover miraculously and my mother dies donating her eyes to my girlfriend and we all live happily ever after. Life lesson number four rears its head: Give of yourself to others. And while youre at it, make sure you realise that you arent doing anyone any favours by being kind. Its all just to make you feel that sneaky little twinge that comes from being utterly pleased with yourself. After all, the one that gets the most benefit out of any act of kindness or charity that you do will always be you. I dont say this, as many see it, in a transactive or karmic way. Its not an I do good, I get benefit equation with some white bearded figure taking notes from the heavens above. Its a simple truth. An act of goodness becomes worthless when you assign a brownie point to yourself for it, no matter how subtly you allow yourself to do so. As benevolent as your gesture might be; someone else could have made it too. Regardless of how rich, successful and famous you become, dont ever underestimate the grace that other people bestow upon you just by being the recipients of your kindnesses. You might be able to buy your friend a Rolls for his/her birthday but its no substitute for a patient hearing of your sulky rants on a bad hair day. <br><br><br><p class=clear>&nbsp;</p>Sometimes things just happen, as encapsulated in another movie title of mine: Kuch Kuch Hota Hai; and you know what? They dont always add up (that would be One Two Ka Four as the list of titles continues). So my fifth lesson is this: when life hits you with all the force of its resplendent rage, the Rolls isnt going to give you comfort. A friends grace will, and if you cant find resolution as easily as you would like to, dont panic. Everything evolves as you go along, Chalte - Chalte as we say in Hindi (and yes, that was another movie I did but no more mad plots for Gods sake!!) </span>